According to a recent study published in the Journal of Sex Medicine , 87 percent of married men say they consistently experience orgasm during sex. Just 49 percent of women say the same. Some attribute the circumstance to a difference in libido.
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These feelings built up over a few years, and when we were drunk one night, I told her. She said she felt the same. Later we met and chatted, but the net result is, because of her friendship with my wife, nothing could happen. She is now in another relationship and has moved on. I think she represents everything that is missing in my current marriage — the spark for me has gone. Is this normal for a marriage of 10 years? Should I be content with a woman who loves me, or does it mean I have some sort of mental issue for not being able to move on and enjoy life? I think of her having sex with other people and it tears me apart. Whether or not you were to hook up with this current object of your desire, I have a feeling you are still capable of spending the rest of your life in regret. There are very few couples who, after more than a decade of co-habitation, are still powered primarily by desire.
Guys, believe me when I tell you that this is the biggest sin you can commit when trying to seduce a woman. It will not send us into an orgasmic swoon. Try hugging or kissing. Hold and squeeze our hand. Unload the dishwasher yourself. You have to make us feel sexy and make us want to be sexual.
In reality, things are usually much different, and one of the biggest things that guys seem to struggle with when it comes to marriage — if pop culture and Google searches are to be believed — is married sex. Add things like bills, kids and career woes to the mix, and you have a decidedly non-sexy scenario lined up. This person probably sees you at your best and worst, day in and day out. So how do you make married sex … well, sexy? How do you make it fun, spontaneous, naughty and exciting all in one? Every couple is different, and different things will work for different couples.