But wait a minute. There may be underlying personality similarities, but if the answer to "what shall I do next" is always trumped by a Morman frame of reference for one partner, but not the other, conflict is inevitable. It's the extra socializing, hanging out with residents, stopping by the hospital to visit his best friend. Oh this is a great set of questions. He later converted to her faith and was called to be a temple sealer. There will be struggles in marriage and childrearing whether or not he is a member.
I still feel enriched by the contrasts, but in the important things, we have largely come together. Dating a resident is hard - it was hard to realize that I can't come first, or even second, in this relationship right now. Take a breath, stop and think, is it worth destroying so many lives so you can step in and take the rewards after someone else does the hard work. A Mormon will tearfully and emotionally recite whichever lesson they need at the given moment. So you stay calm, stay pleasant, and try not to let it eat you alive. If you think your girlfriend's resistance to being exposed to anything critical of Mormonism sounds cult-like, you are right. I want so much to be supportive, but since my family is gone, I find myself afraid that I will come off as needy if I ask for attention or more affection. Its interesting to read all the doctor wife's comments and experiences. How do you really feel about that. You are a good person and she can see that.
Not sure if you are, or not. I was thinking about this last night after listening to Radio West. I realize that the answers to many of these questions may be different for every family, and that we need to continue to discuss them more as a couple as we continue to think about our future. Leave a Reply Cancel reply. We might not always like the way some priesthood holders act, but to disparage the priesthood is not being responsible.
The brethren have taught that there is an ideal pattern for marriage. I was happy to read your blog. And here we are with our trivial problems. I believe strongly that I was meant to marry my spouse. I've been married to a cardiologist for 30 years. Me doing everything around the house, running all errands, and working full time doesn't compete with the high stakes work he does and he doesn't understand how hard I am working also because of his job. I get to experience the joys of his culture, which I never would have known otherwise. She is now happy with her uber-Mormon boyfriend and I am happily dating other people as well. I think it might be worth trying. There are two ways to go about this.